Pamela, I just finished your book. It took me almost a year to read. I found it too hard to read because of the pain that I felt for you; your son, Dash; and also for your other two boys; and knowing that my situation is almost exactly the same. You may not remember but I contacted you via email and sent you my story along with some emails and pictures of my son. I have been alienated from my son for over a year now. You suggested I contact Reena Sommer, (which I did and we spoke on the phone) I found it helpful to speak to someone who has extensive knowledge of PAS. But I feel that nothing I do is working. My ex-husband has been telling me for months that my son does not want to live and talks about different ways that he can commit suicide and/or kill me. He just turned eleven. I went to visit him a week ago. His violence towards me is rising. He kicked me, punched me, hit me with his skateboard, pulled my hair, scratched my car up and wrote obscenities on it with a toy that I had given him for his birthday, broke my mirror... During my visit when I was trying to talk to my son (his father always speaking for him) I begged for his father to let me try to speak to my son alone. His father finally piped up "Tell her! Tell your mom how you want to die! Tell her how you want to kill yourself by stabbing yourself with a knife! Tell her how you want to jump out of the window to commit suicide!" Is he not planting a deadly seed?! I finally feel that I am at a point where I need to let go. Do I stop calling? Do I stop sending letters and gifts in the mail? Do I stop attempting to visit him? A very good friend told me that when my son sees me coming he sees a monster. I think he's right. My ex-husband has brainwashed my son into believing that not only I, but his sister, grandparents, aunts and uncles are all monsters. There doesn't seem to be anything that any of us can do to change his mind. What is it going to take for my son to prove his loyalty to his father? I am currently trying with my legal aid lawyer to facilitate visits with my son in the absence of his father and in a safe environment I know this could take months. I've decided not to try to visit him again until this gets sorted out. I will continue to write letters and send small gifts. It's the only thing I can think of to do right now.
Thank you for your support. I am so sorry for all that you have been through and I admire your courage and your strength.
Tracy
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Pamela,
I wish I could email you confidentially - is there a way of doing so?
Gina
Pamela,
This is Gina. I wanted to find out if the comments would automatically be publicly posted. I wish I could email you confidentially - please do not post this. I am in the midst of a custody battle at the moment and can't take the chance of posting anything publically. My story is identical to yours (including my ex-husband being a lawyer and wanting the same doctor to perform the s.15) however my children are very young and i'm, hoping to prevent the same type of tragedy. I wish you had included more information about what had happened in court and how you went about trying to discredit the affidavits full of lies.
I would love to ask you for contacts in addition to the woman who did the foreword of your book (I have already found her website). If there is a way of contacting you confidentially i would appreciate it however don't feel obliged - I am making it day by day and I know things will be fine. If you could contact me at elkahina777@hotmail.com
Hey Pamela,
I'm reading your book now. I'm a freelance writer who was given an assignment for a magazine article on "Divorce Poison," and found your book. I have lived through this nightmare as well (still am) but am recently comforted researching for my article to know I'm not alone as I felt for so long. How much time I spend thinking and praying about all this. Some days, it still consumes my life.
Would you be willing to let me interview you when I'm done with your book? I'm so sorry about the outcome for you. How I wish your Dash was still with you. But I must admit, when I read on your website that Peter died in 2004, I was pretty happy.
Sincerely,
Julie Ferwerda
www.JulieFerwerda.com
Does anyonone on here know how to contact Ms. Richardson? I feel as though I've lost my life, and in many ways I have. After fighting PAS for six long and painful years, my 15 year old son (my only child, committed suicide in July. My ex didn't even have the courtesy to call and inform me of my own son's death. My ex had my son creamated before I even found out he had passed away. The way I found out my son had passed away was in the newspaper....yes, the newspaper!! We have to put a stop to this. Also, has ANYONE heard about Oprah or Dr. Phil doing an episode on this most horrible form of child abuse? I just feel helpless and lost at this time. Any thoughts and/or suggestions would be extremely beneficial to me. You can contact me at cbreeze3@hotmail.com. My name is Collette. Thank you for "listening" as I share a mother's worst nightmare with you!
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