I am just in the middle of your book right now. I am doing a report/essay on PAS for my college English class and I came across your book. I am so sorry for your loss. It is a great book, well written, and I can relate fully.
My husbands ex-wife has alienated his 2 children form him for the past 7 years now. We went to trial and like yours, we had a psychologist that was not for us, guardian ad litem that was friends with the ex's lawyer, and a judge that just wanted it off his docket. Our expert psychologist told the judge he must get the kids out of her care ASAP. The judge seemed to like the PAS expert and said he believed he was accurate, however, 2 months later when he gave his final order, he gave full custody to the mom?
We found out her uncle was a retired bailiff in the same court and she conveniently married a police officer in the same jurisdiction. (they are no longer together, she ripped him off blindly - another story). The kids are now 17 and 18 and they live with their mom who now has put them both in jail this year at different times, claiming they beat her. Child Protective Services were called and the kids said the mom abuses them, but, they don't belive the kids. The school knows, they can't do anything. We know this because we just started hearing from his daughter after 5 years via email.
However, suddenly the emails have stopped, and we think mom may have found out. She is now not responding to any of ours. They are so afraid of their mother, it's pathetic. Now I have a friend in Florida who is going thru this. Her son is now 14 and her daughter is 8. When she went over on Thanksgiving to visit, unannounced, since no one ever returned her calls, she brought all of her kids cousins, grandparents, etc, and they asked the children to come outside so they can see them.
My friend said her son (the 14 yr. old) was so frightened, he kept looking back at the house, afraid that someone was going to come out, or just afraid of what may be said to him when he went back in. Her daughter is now becoming non-responsive to her when she shows up at the soccer games.
She never heard of PAS and I am trying to help her as much as I can. Needless to say she is devastated, and fears for her children's lives. She said she has never seen her children look this way. She doesn't have much money to fight this and just is at a loss. Her lawyer doesn't know much about PAS either, just what I am feeding her.
I am going to do all I can to help her, I will do research or whatever it takes. I will not stand back and see more children go thru this. Your case sounds just like ours went. Unfortunately your son is not alive, and my heart goes out to you and your family. I commend you for all your efforts and may God Bless you. If you know of anyone who can help, please let us know. Thank you.
Janie
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I feel for what you went through. What I find sickening is how those in the legal system involved with your son, the Judges, the lawyers and psychologists how they can sleep at night with what happened. There was a case in early 2009 where the court overturned a decision to give custody to the father after the mother tried for 10 yrs to alienate her children from the father....it only took 10 years and the emotional abuse will last a life time.......they poor children are scarred for life....how can your ex husband look at himself in the mirror and not realize he lost the most precious thing a parent can have in life and that is a happy child! I don't get it....I just don't get it.....
Dennis
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